They say all wounds heal with time but what are you supposed to do when the scars that you bear brings you more pain than you ever anticipated?
After an earthquake, you can expect aftershocks for months, even YEARS after the initial quake. My emotional trauma is like an earthquake….years later and random shit just takes me back. I could be sitting in my room, watching tv and the thought of my ex-boyfriend fills me with either anger or sadness. He got me so fucked up mentally and emotionally that I don’t remember who I was before him. Dating can give me anxiety at times because I refuse to allow myself to feel the way I felt in while in that relationship. People think that talking about your traumas or what someone has done to you in the past means that you’re not over it or you secretly want that person back. How does that make sense? In my experience, speaking about things that have hurt you can help release the negative feelings that you have buried deep inside you. Our subconscious remembers everything and when we don’t speak on it or allow ourselves to heal from it, we tend to internalize it and let the trauma consume us. As women sometimes we make new bae pay for the mistakes of our last bae whether it be intentional or unintentional. New bae might say something that reminds you of old bae and now new bae=old bae and you gotta get rid of him. Nah, it doesn’t work like that. No two people are the same and at some point, we have to let that hurt go or it’ll ruin relationship after relationship. You have to learn to recognize the intent behind someone’s words or actions and remember that actions will always speak louder than words. It’s all a process but the key is to know that in the grand scheme of things, it’s not repetition…its evolution.
Keep ya head up bbygirl. It’ll get better!